genuine love: i do not feel loved

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Have you had an opportunity to make such a statement to yourself or to those who are near and dear to your heart? ‘I do not feel loved.’ If you have not made such statement to others, thinking, you will not be taken serious, you are not alone. The definition of love has been corrupted and our society has defined love on the basis of pleasure and in the search for avoidance of pain.

As we distant ourselves from the genuine love–which we will define shortly–we tend to rely on our own understanding of love and being to declare it as genuine. Now, this sense of genuine love which in itself is not genuine is developed as we settle for the first form of love we attain in our lives without questioning the love we are attaining or looking for “The Genuine Love.”

The Genuine Love can be described by pointing out several attributes of it. It bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things, is transparent, is marked by generous giving, gracious, and willing to suffer for the betterment of others. This sort of love put the needs of others as a top priority and is willing to meet those needs without a selfish gain. Such love is generated from God, for He alone is the one who defines love.

If you do not know God, it is easy to dismiss the genuine love and run after the love which may brings us temporary pleasures but leaves us longing for love in a long run. The pleasure we believe will bring us the satisfaction in the end multiply the pain.

The Genuine Love, we find in Christ and He gives us freely. If you do not feel loved, I invite you to come and experience His love by placing your faith in Christ and trusting His word. It is only then, we are able to examine our heart and understand the longing for love and then in return love others as we should.

Putting it into practice

Start with knowing God. You and I cannot give what we do not have. In order for us to experience the genuine love we must come to the Cross of Jesus Christ and seek the face of God. Abide ourselves in Him and receive the everlasting grace, which we will be able to extend to those who do not know God.

There is no fear in love. But perfect love drives out fear, because fear has to do with punishment. The one who fears is not made perfect in love.

1 John 4:18 – NIV