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marriage: fruitless effort

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Our expectations in marriage are often unrealistic and our fruitless effort of changing our spouse can be detrimental. We tend to enforce our own marital-worldview on our spouse and neglect to see our own behavior and conduct. The wrong approach to our marriage not only deteriorates our relationship with our spouse, but leaves us frustrated.

Wives, in the same way submit yourselves to your own husbands so that, if any of them do not believe the word, they may be won over with words by the behavior of their wives, when they see the purity and reverence of your life.

1 Peter 3:1-2

The passage listed above does not only apply to the wives but also to husbands; as believers, we need to live life in a manner where God is glorified through our behavior and conduct. What a wonderful approach in our marriage that we not only display what God desires for us to be but we ourselves become the right person for our spouse.

They in the end come to know the Lord as their personal savior as they should if they do not know Him as the savior of their lives. If he or she already believes in the Lord and is not living a godly life, we can be an example for our spouse and practice our faith in the manner of love instead out of retaliation.

Putting it into practice

Next time, when you are attempting to correct the behavior of your spouse, ask yourself a question, am I behaving in a way which may be causing an irritation in our relationship?

Once, we acknowledge and correct our behavior and understand what God is calling us–develop a sacrificial mentality–to do in our marriage; our relationship begins to bear fruit instead of causing us frustration.

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